Photography has always been a therapeutic tool for me. I think hiding away from cameras definitely reveals an insecurity and I think many women (myself included) have felt that genuine fear of being in front of the camera. In fact I talk about it a lot in my About Me section where I discuss how I avoided being in front of the camera when my children were little.

After having my children I was left with your typical mum tum- thankfully people are talking about these bodily changes more frequently but when I had my first child these issues were still covered up and it’s very isolating feeling like you’re the only person to have been left with scars, marks and an overhang. Diastasis recti and two c-sections have meant the body I had pre-children isn’t coming back without surgery. So my options were to either love my body with its new squishy texture or to continue obsessing over it and feeling insecure for the rest of my life or until I went down the surgical route- something I’m not comfortable with. Kudos to anyone that is happy to get surgery but I’m the biggest wimp so I avoid medical procedures wherever possible. I’ve summarised my issues in a short paragraph but the reality is it’s taken me maybe 5 years to fully embrace my new body and it’s an ongoing journey.

Sometimes when I speak to clients I talk about insecurities and how they feel about their bodies. It’s important for me to know as a photographer how a person perceives themselves and whether they have a body issue that I can help them with. Because the reality is sometimes our own body hatred is deep within our minds and visually it’s never as bad as we make it out to be. Photography is the perfect tool to help you on your path to healing. I want to be able to enable you to look at yourself objectively- to take away the negative voices you have about yourself.

I frequently say to my clients that we’re going to confront their insecurity if they’re happy for me to guide them through it. The worst that’ll happen is that nothing changes- they never need to see the images again and no one will ever know. But the best that can happen is that I can help them see themselves in a different light- through kinder eyes and I can help them start their healing journey. There is beauty is our differences and it’s wrong to think we should all have to be the same. I will also happily get my mum tum out for any client that doesn’t believe I have my own insecurities.

I wanted to share some stories from a couple of clients that have been in recently. Some wonderful women that allowed me to help them photograph parts of themselves they’ve struggled with. I’ll let them tell you their stories in their own words.

“I'm Debbie, I'm 50 years old and have had body dysmorphia for a fair part of my life.

My story begins at just 11 years old when I was diagnosed with a spinal condition called Scoliosis meaning curvature of the spine. At the beginning it was only a small curve but as I continued to grow so did the curve. It then became life threatening and I needed to have some major spinal surgery to save my life. I needed metal rods and wiring inserted to help the stop of the curve becoming worse. Because I was different I was bullied at school.

By the time I was 20 I'd endured 4 major spinal ops and some other procedures to help with my deformity- primarily a rib hump which saw me have some of my ribs removed. I now have a 16" scar right down the middle of my back. It makes me feel self conscience and ugly.

But Donna captured my back beautifully and in a way to confront my imperfections (to me) and show me my body as art. We all have things we don't always like about ourselves but doing this with Donna has been a good and positive experience.

I'm not going to say I love my body or myself still because body dysmorphia doesn't disappear overnight but i's made me look at myself slightly differently.”

Debbie

“Lots of people describe their journey with their body confidence as a journey. But in reality, it's more like a dance.

The process of accepting and loving my body hasn't gone from hatred and then progressed to love. There are times I love my body and times it frustrates me. That's the dance. I’m in it, constantly. There is no beginning and end destination. But I'm definitely no longer hating my body and it is the most empowering feeling.

My dance with my back has been quite an intense one. It's the part of my body where the tempo of the music changes frequently. Sometimes it's like 90’s RnB, sometimes its like the death march, like I'm going into battle with it.

I 100% accept all of my body and absolutely adore nearly all of it. I've learnt to embrace who I am, drown out the societal expectations of me as a woman and focus on what feels right for me.”

Kayleigh Confidence and Empowerment Coach

If you want to try and see if I can help you with your body image or your mental health issues through my photography please don’t hesitate to get in touch. The worst that can happen is that you don’t change your mindset with me, but the best that can happen is that we start you off on your journey to accept and learn to love exactly who you are and to feel good about it.

It sounds so self indulgent doesn’t it?

But it is so important that you invest in yourself because ultimately there’s just one of you and you are the only one responsible for your happiness.

So here are 5 reasons why investing is a necessity (in business and in life):

1. 100% of the investment goes towards achieving your goals. When you invest in yourself, (your brand or your life) that investment is solely being put into you and helping you reach the desired outcomes you need or want. All that time, money and energy isn’t going elsewhere. It’s focussed on helping you achieve your goals.

2. Frees up your time. Investing in yourself is another way of saying you’re outsourcing and that frees up your time and causes less stress. When it comes to work this could come in the form of getting a website developer or investing in yearly photographs that you can access easily for all your content needs- those jobs you don’t want to do can be done by someone else and instead you can use your time in an area of your business where you excel or enjoy some down time- down time when you’re a business owner is just as important as working consistently. In life you might get your nails done, or use a personal trainer… although you can paint your own nails or exercise at home the likelihood is you wouldn’t see the same results in the time it takes to use a professional service.

3. Avoids burnout. If you’re not outsourcing or you’re taking on too much and not giving yourself time to enjoy life and experience moments of happiness you can guarantee burn out will happen. When you choose to invest in yourself you can limit burnout because you’re doing things that you want to do, for your well-being and happiness.

4. Your productivity increases. When you invest in yourself ultimately you become happier and your relationships benefit from that too whether that’s at work or at home. You’ll often find you have more energy and your productivity increases because of that. Happy life = happy all around.

5. More confidence. Investing in yourself is telling yourself that you're worth it. Acknowledging what you need and desire is such an important first step to giving you more confidence.

Money spent on you isn’t self indulgence. It’s investment. It goes towards your mental wellbeing. Whether you’re using that money to excel in life or business it’s an important investment to make.

Remember, you are worth investing in.

Some people are very personal about their make up, whether that’s because they like it to be exactly how they do it or as often is the case, they don’t wear much of it and don’t want to not be themselves in the portraits that are taken.

I completely understand that, and having a make up artist at your photoshoot is something I offer as a complimentary service.

You are never obligated to have to use one of my make up artists. So if you strongly feel that a make up artist wouldn’t be a great fit for you just let me know. As always every photoshoot is customised to your needs.

However, there are many benefits to having a make up artist on the day of your photoshoot, so if you are a little unsure here are 3 great reasons why you should use a professional make up artist for your portrait session:

1. Professional make up artists are highly trained and skilled when it comes to applying make up for photography. They are able to use high end products to help remove unflattering sharpness caused by the high spec quality of modern cameras. While there’s benefits to having sharp images we don’t necessarily want to see every facial detail in HD!

2. Normal everyday make up isn’t actually defined enough to be picked up on camera. So having your make up professionally applied can sometimes feel and look a bit heavy, but a make up artist isn’t preparing you for your everyday casual make up look, she’s preparing you for the strength of the lights and the way in which colour disappears quickly on camera. Even if it is a everyday causal look you’re going for you’ll need just a bit more definition then you’re used to to give the result you truly want.

3. Make up artists are specialists in what they do and can alter looks throughout a session meaning we can go from casual to glam easily. Hair up or hair down? With a make up artist present we can go for a variety of different styles. Having someone on hand to pamper you is also a great way to enjoy the full process.

When you book a portrait with me you will immediately be offered a make up artist at your session. This will enable you to truly relax on the morning of your portrait session and fully embrace the process.

My current in house make up artists are:

Emma from Emma Ford Make Up

Holly from Carter Hair and Make Up

Sarah from Sarah Catherall Make Up

If you’re looking for a photographer for your small wedding, click here.

Your wedding day is one of the most memorable days in your life time and photographs are imperative to have as a long lasting legacy of such an important moment. For some couples the wedding day is where they want to capture all those memories, and for other couples having the chance to get back into their wedding outfits and have some special portraits done together without the stress of taking time away from friends and family is their preferred choice. It’s more intimate and calming and the pictures are perfect for framed wall art.

So I was thrilled to have the chance to take some special portraits for Tyrone and his bride Viwe, images that can be shared with Viwe’s family back home in South Africa who were unable to fly over to the UK but were able to watch the ceremony online.

While I love the trend for documentary wedding photography- and actually it’s my preferred option too for a wedding day, there’s nothing quite like having special portraits done to elevate the occasion and to have something that lasts longer and is more impactful from such a great occasion.